How many of us have set goals based on age? By 21 I’ll have this. By 30….this, and when you don’t meet those goals, you began to feel like you’ve failed?
I’m raising both of my hands! I had so many age specific goals it was crazy. Now let me say this, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that, but don’t let it be a reason to get discouraged, stop pursuing, or allow it to make you feel like you’ve failed. Now let’s move on.
By 26 I was a mother of 4 and at that point I can remember thinking, dang I really wanted to have x,y and z completed by 25, but I missed that so let’s aim for 30. Before my 27th birthday I was a divorced mother of 4 entering the workforce for the very first time without a degree. At that point, all goals had gone out the window and I immediately went into survival mode. I had developed a “by any means necessary” mentality. Before I knew it, 30 had come and gone and the thought of goals were nonexistent.
It took me years to forgive myself, to give myself grace. I started seeing so many stories of later in life success stories. College graduates in their 40’s, 50’s and 69’s. People starting successful businesses late in life. If you’re alive and you have a goal you want to achieve, it’s possible at any age!
I started this blog in January of 2018, three months before my 39th birthday. I started the blog as a means to get things off my chest. I planned to write my way out of depression and anxiety, and if in the process I was able to help and encourage someone else, I’d be happy! As of today, I’ve been able to do that and more!
Now that I’m 40, I’ve discovered my why and I’ve found my purpose. I also know that my success is NOT tied to my age. So today, if you’re questioning whether or not you should start that business, or finish that degree, or write that book, the answer is YES! Do it at 20. Do it at 30. Do it at 60. Just do it!
Until next time…🦋