When you hear the word intimacy, what’s the first thing that comes to mind? 7 times out of 10, probably sex. When I was younger, sex would have definitely been the first thing that came to mind, but now that I’m more mature, more seasoned, intimacy has taken on a whole new meaning!
I read that there are four forms of intimacy; physical, emotional, mental & spiritual, and here is my brief take.
Physical; I have five words...take your time with me. As I get older, I appreciate the art of love making. When the physical act of love making turns spiritual. That moment when souls connect followed by the cuddling aftermath. Now I’m not above a lunchtime quickie, but I’m keeping it high level lol.
Hugging, so freaking intimate! Holding and being held. There’s something about feeling safe in someone’s arms. That moment during an embrace when your eyes close, you take in their scent, exhale and just melt.
Kissing, I’ve always said that the answer is in the kiss. A kiss will tell you everything you need to know. A kiss lets you know when it’s right, and it will tell you when it’s off.
Holding hands.
Laying in each other’s lap to watch a movie.
Massages.
The physical list goes on and on and on.
Emotional intimacy...listening to each other. Supporting each others dreams. Allowing each other to break, and providing the support they need.
“How was your day?” Such a simple yet meaningful phrase.
“I got you”
“I hear you”
“I support you”
Transparency. Honesty. Affirmations. Communication.
I’ve always been intrigued by great conversation. Talk to me, I mean really talk to me. Engage in meaningful conversation with me. Stimulate my mind with your words. My definition of “let me see what that mouth do”.
When it comes to spiritual intimacy, I’m reminded of what I always heard growing up, “don’t be unequally yoked.” I was an adult when I truly understood what this meant. For me it’s simple, if your ideas on spirituality and God aren’t aligned, there will be division. What does spiritual intimacy look like? Praying for you and with you! Listen Linda, if they love you, pray with you and pray for you...whew Chile, hold on tight!
There are levels to this! What I know for sure is, no relationship can truly last without a healthy combination of all.
How do you view intimacy?
Until next time...🦋