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When you think growth, the first thing that probably comes to mind is physical growth.

As defined by Webster, growth is the process of increasing in physical size or the process of developing or maturing physically, mentally, or spiritually.

In this blog, I’m referring to the latter. Less than three months from 40 I’m taking time to acknowledge my own personal growth.

Can I be real transparent? When I was young it was nothing for me to hold a grudge. If you did me wrong, best believe I was cutting all ties with no intention to forgive. My favorite saying was, “I’m not Jesus, it ain’t my job to forgive”. Silly I know. I now know that forgiveness is for me, not the other person.

Today my growth looks like moving forward without an apology I know I’m owed but never got. Whew, let me tell you, this one was hard!

Growth looks like forgiving an ex that can’t see past what they experienced with you.

Growth can come with growing pains.

When I began to evolve mentally and spiritually people began to call me weird, stuck up and confused. Some of which came from individuals near and dear to me. I noticed that individuals I used to talk to began to disappear. This was a source of pain for me until I realized that those individuals were stunting my growth.

The need to be liked. Can you relate? It would destroy me when someone didn’t like me. It always made me think that there was something wrong with me. I was constantly seeking outside validation for something I didn’t possess…self worth and self love. Growth, I now know that everything I need, I already posses. I love me a lot!

Allowing people and negativity to disrupt my peace. I’d get into it with my someone. Get a text from my ex. Have a disagreement with my significant other, and it would disrupt my day and change everything about me. I’d be angry, sad, wouldn’t eat and would hibernate. Growth, I’ve learned that people can only do to you what you allow. I’ve learned to not give anyone the power to disrupt my peace, something I control. I learned that not everything requires a reaction. Ha! That was tough tough tough, but when you learn better, you do better!

Always remember that you never stop growing and evolving.

“Life is growth. If we stop growing, technically and spiritually, we are as good as dead.” Morihei Ueshiba

Until next time…🦋

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