So now we’re encouraging people to take back cheating spouses?
Offset & Cardi B…1st off, I don’t listen to their music, but you’d have to be living under a rock to not be aware of their recent relationship debacle, it’s everywhere…and why is it everywhere? Because we live in a society entertained by another individual’s misfortunes. I digress. Now according to the receipts provided by the internet, male rapper Offset who is currently married to female rapper Cardi B was recently caught entertaining the company of a woman named Summer Bunni.
A moment of silence. This young woman, after being identified as Offset’s mistress took to her Instagram account posting a tearful video apologizing for her wrongs. During the course of this apology she made the comment and I quote,
“I didn’t know how serious his marriage was. You know… I kinda read and kinda see things but, it didn’t click until today to actually get into this.”
After hearing this, I was completely befuddled. I had to take a moment to think about what she said. “I didn’t know how serious his MARRIAGE was” I guess she thought they were just married and not married married 🤔🙄. (Please know that statement is laced with a heavy dose of sarcasm) In my mind I thought, could this young woman really be this silly? Yes, why yes she is.
A few things here…
When did the sanctity of marriage become such a joke?
When did women’s self worth diminish to the point of settling for another woman’s husband?
And when did cheating become normalized and excusable by so many?
Prior to details of Offset and Summer Bunni’s encounters began to surface, Cardi B announced the end of their marriage. As a woman who’s experienced a cheating significant other, I was elated! I thought to myself, yes, finally a woman publicly leaving her spouse after he publicly cheats! The married couple recently celebrated the arrival of a beautiful baby girl. As a woman who has experienced this very thing, I know all too well that sharing children with a cheating significant other adds a level of complexity hard to explain.
Now that Offset has been caught cheating, he like his mistress has taken to the internet with an”apology” and I use that term loosely. I posted a blog earlier in the year about cheating and how it’s become as normalized as the day is 24 hours long. In my opinion, after a person cheats, an apology doesn’t mean shit! Offset now speaks of his love for his wife and his daughter. My dear brother, where was that love when you chose to entertain the company of another woman?
If you love someone and are in a committed marriage, you don’t CHOOSE to cheat. That my dear friends, is an I love you with a but…
Here is where things turned even more left, I’ve been seeing several individuals coming to this adulterers defense! Speaking on his behalf you could say and pleading with Cardi B to take him back. Most recently, a video from rapper The Gsme who said and I quote,
“We’re all guilty of entertaining women, texting women, but he didn’t, you know, he didn’t do it”
In my post on cheating, I made it very clear that cheating isn’t always sexual, but the minute one chooses to step outside of their marriage, there is no more love and no more respect. You can’t love someone and CHOOSE to cheat. Cheating is never an accident or a mistake, it’s always a choice. You don’t accidentally slip and fall in another woman’s vagina 🤷🏽♀️.
I wonder, would Offset and The Game who both have daughters encourage their daughters to put up with, or take back a man guilty of the things they’ve done. What are you teaching your daughter about respecting themselves and valuing the sanctity of marriage by accepting, dealing with, or taking back a cheating spouse?
This entire situation is sad to me. Not only is it sad, at one point in my life it was my reality. Cheating destroys families!
Ladies, and men. Please know, that you do not have to put up with or take back a person that chooses to cheat on you. Cheating is not love. Cheating is not an accident. Cheating under no circumstance is ever okay.
Ladies, and men. If a person is married, they are off limits. If a person is in a committed relationship, they are off limits. Stop trying to entertain individuals already in committed relationships. It’s not a challenge and it’s not cute.
Ladies, and men. If you’re in a committed relationship or marriage and feel the urge or need to step out i.e cheat, just leave. It really is that simple. Stop committing just for the title.
I’ll end with this excerpt I found on the internet.
“Fuck You for cheating on me. Fuck you for reducing it to the word cheating. As if this were a card game, and you sneaked a look at my hand. Who came up with the term cheating, anyway? A cheater, I imagine. Someone who thought liar was too harsh. Someone who thought devastator was too emotional. The same person who thought, oops, he’d gotten caught with his hand in the cookie jar. Fuck you. This isn’t about slipping yourself an extra twenty dollars of Monopoly money. These are our lives. You went and broke our lives. You are so much worse than a cheater. You killed something. And you killed it when its back was turned.”
Until next time…💛